I want a good life.  A happy life. Don’t we all? Don’t we all want a life that is Facebook worthy? One that is full and that we are proud of?

I bought into the lie that I must be good…

I need a marriage that is free of arguments and disagreements.

My house must be tidy and well decorated.

The children must excel at academics and sports.  They must obey and look clean at all times.

There needs to be a list of the things I do to contribute to my school, my church, my community.

I must be a good wife, good mother, good friend, good volunteer, a good girl.

I must live up to all the standards people have of being good. If I am not good at all of it, can I have a good life?

The Truth

BUT here is the truth, the honest truth, if we would truly allow it to seep into our hearts.  A good life comes from doing the hard and the ugly and the mundane in a good way!

I want to live in a way that I know what my gifts are and use them to better another’s life.  And where I accept my weaknesses and allow other people to better me. I want to love people deeply and let people love me!

I want a house that may be a mess, but invites others in.

A marriage that is not perfect, but shares the joy in working through the struggles.

Children who get it wrong, but are learning with every mistake.

I want to share my life and have an openness that I don’t have it all together.

To not be good, but a devoted wife, a growing mother, a present friend!

A True Good Life

I don’t think the American dream is to pretend to be good or to have the perfect life. A true, full life is not about being good at everything.  It is letting yourself be real and raw! It is choosing to see good in what we do and then asking others for their good to fill the parts that we fail at.

Then it is a worthy, authentic, shareable, GOOD GOOD life!

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Cascia was born and raised in the Arizona heat. While receiving her Pre-Med degree at HIU in California, a blonde, surfing, skateboarding boy stole her heart. Although they both dream of having their toes in the salty California waters; they now call Colorado home with their 3 children (9, 6, 5) and their adorable cat named Turtle. They are busy enjoying all the new adventures and crazy weather patterns that Colorado Springs has to offer. Her family can often be found hiking (they just conquered the Crags!!), searching for any type of water to play in, enjoying a new farmer's market or just hanging in their backyard, tending to their garden. After 3 years as a SAHM, she is ready to get back out into the education world. Playing guitar, writing songs, and reading any and every parenting book helps keep her sane and happy! A good cup of coffee or a bubbly La Croix can usually be found in her hand! She is trying to live by the motto "I'd rather recover from failure than live with regret.