We’re working really hard, but it’s easy to keep our family as our focus. My job isn’t overly demanding, and my husband is at home with our kids all but 12 hours per week. Our children aren’t involved in a bunch of extra-curricular activities because they’re one and four years old. Right now, my children love nothing more than spending time with me and my husband, and that’s pretty cool. It's also very fleeting.
When my husband married me, he didn’t know he was signing up for a wife who throws fatigue-induced tantrums because our nearly-one-year-old son still doesn’t sleep through the night! He didn't know his wife would be the pallbearer at my grandfather’s funeral. He didn’t know he’d have to love me through piles of laundry and dishes and coupons clipped with good intentions but no follow-through.
I remember when I was pregnant for the first time, everyone would say, "Being a mom is so hard, but so worth it." Do you know what that kind of advice does for a mother-to-be? I'll be bold here and say it does nothing. The word "hard" is thrown around like confetti when it comes to parenting. It isn't incorrect, because being a parent IS hard, but the term "hard" has become so overused, it's practically meaningless.
Traditionally, dads get a bad rap for not knowing these little, or sometimes big, details. I think a lot of people attribute it as a male trait. Maybe that's true to an extent, but I also think it's simply because they're often working in a different building than home!
Leaving your sweet bundle at home or dropping them off at daycare can be heart-wrenching. And that isn't the only difficult aspect to making your post-baby debut in the office. After each child, I was overwhelmed with the idea of using a breast pump at work.
I enjoy putting together homemade Lunchables, so I can choose higher quality meat, cheese and crackers and also pack some fresh fruit as a side. I also switch up sandwiches by using different breads like tortillas, bagel thins and croissants.