Fitting “Me” into the Margins of Motherhood

Photo credit: Rachel Day Photography

The purpose of the margins on a printed document is to make the important stuff stand out. It draws our attention to paramount information on the page. If the margins are too jumbled, too small or too messy, the main point doesn’t show up. Our lives as mothers are no different.

Moments in the Margins

Motherhood is all encompassing. From the moment we wake up to the moment our eyes close in sleep, we “mom.” We are even aware of our children in the darkness, listening through our slumber for coughs and cries, ready to be there in a moment with blurry eyes and bedhead. When do we have time to take care of little tasks that nurture us beyond the mom-ness? How can we use the margins of motherhood to care for ourselves as women? 

Nap Time

It may be every mom’s favorite time of the day. Instead of rushing around to complete all those tasks and chores, take a few moments for yourself. Maybe you want to exercise, call a friend, read a book or write in your journal. Nurturing yourself will give you energy for the rest of the day.

Bath Time

One of my tricks of the trade is doing personal grooming while my son takes a bath. It’s the perfect time to pluck eyebrows, file nails or even do a face mask. You’re in the bathroom watching your little ones already. Why not let them play independently, and you take five for you? Be sure to keep those things you need close by so you don’t leave your child unattended in the tub. 

Any Time

Next time you’re washing dishes, stop for a moment. Listen to bird song. Look outside for a long moment, and settle your eyes on something beautiful that brings a spark of joy. Taking a moment to be present can root you in the beautiful chaos of the here and now.

When faced with doing something kind for ourselves and doing chores, it’s OK to choose yourself. In fact, it will make you a better mom in the long run. Find a moment in the margins for yourself today!